Ok I managed to get that server back online…
Well I managed to get my faild server back online and happy. In fact I thing I even figured out some things with the mail system that make it much better then before. Now I Just need to figure out how to send mail from a client (Thunderbird) to the server (sendmail) encrypted while allowing relaying… speaking of witch I need to get smtp_auth working… but if I can get those two things going, I think I will have it made.